Just like every other couple, Skyler and I have talked a lot about the names of our future children. We both feel names are very important and can be a true reflection of who that child becomes. Skyler is very fond of uncommon names, as he has one, but is very adamant that we will not be using Skyler for our children's name (his biological mother named him after a soap opera character, so he would rather give a name to our children with a little more meaning and depth). We both also like the idea of carrying on family names in one way or another, and have decided that if we have a girl they will get my middle name. And in all actuality it was very easy for us to come up with girl names, but not so easy when it came to picking boys names.
Both Skyler and I have had very influential men in our lives, who have truly shaped us into the people we are today. Like I've talked about in a past post, one of the most influential people in my life was my Uncle Richard. Skyler has also had very influential men come into his life as well; one being his childhood best friend, Kyle, and his childhood counselor, Max. Sadly, ten years ago Kyle was killed and Max closed down his practice and wasn't heard from by Skyler or his parents. There really aren't words to describe how much Kyle and Max meant to Skyler, nor how much they helped shape him into the man he is today. I know I will be forever grateful to both of them for teaching Skyler all they did and guiding him through a rough childhood. So when talking about boys names I felt that to honor Skyler, we should incorporate Kyle and Max's names somehow.
As I said above, Max wasn't heard from by Skyler's family for some time, but Skyler always had a desire to reconnect with him. Thankfully Google came out and we had the ability to search for Max, but could never find anything about him. Then just a couple of years ago Skyler was doing another search for him and remembered that his daughter lived in Virginia, so Skyler searched for Max in Virginia and in just a couple of hours found out that he as living in an assisted living facility in Virginia! Skyler was then able to get Max's direct line and called him up. I know from listening to that phone call that both of them were so surprised and awe struck to be talking again. It was an emotional call for both of them and that's when Skyler learned that Max has stage 4 lung cancer. Once I heard that news I knew that we needed to get out to Virginia to see him, but also to ask his permission to name our son after the man who helped shape Skyler into the amazing person he is today.
So a few things happened in life and a couple of years passed, but this past week we made it out to Virginia and saw Max. Seeing Skyler and Max together was one of the most heart warming things I've ever witnessed. The love they have for each other was so evident and you could tell their connection was stronger than mere counselor and patient. We were able to visit with Max a couple of times during the week and he just beamed about how proud he was of Skyler for facing all the adversity he did as a child and becoming such an amazing man. At one point Max explained that after the first few years he didn't see himself as Skyler's counselor, but as a second father figure, which opened up the conversation of us wanting to name a boy after him if that happens in the future. Max was so touched that he just held Skyler's hand and openly wept about how honored he would be if that ever happened. For the rest of the visit we all cried and hugged and created so much love that I can't even explain the feeling. All I know is that when our little boy is born he will know all about his namesake and that he was loved even before he was known.